A Way to Accept

Sometimes we have a hard time accepting something and as a result we lean into eternal hope. That place where anything is possible; where miracles can happen and what we wish for will come true. Perhaps we hope that a relationship will improve, or an outcome will come out in our favour – perhaps we realize that the boundaries we put in place are respected, or our expectations that someone will change will come to pass. Although eternal hope is usually linked to our emotion brain, we can also use our logical brain to help us accept that what we wish for may not be possible.

My friend Gurlie (and fellow therapist) remarked something to me that she had learned from a client that indeed could help us to accept what will come to pass –  “While it’s possible, it’s not probable.” 

We may know it’s possible, yet the facts also allow us to recognize that it may not be probable. What a soft and gentle way to help us accept what we perhaps are struggling with.

Thanks Gurlie!

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3 thoughts on “A Way to Accept”

  1. Thanks for sharing this Kristine, I recall with pleasure conversations you and I have had about eternal hope and it’s flip side, relentless grieving. The pining for what should have been, or the yearning for what should be and the struggle we humans have with acceptance, we all have lots of nooks and crannies on the path to acceptance. A foundation of understanding of possible and probable starts us on the path.


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