A Little Reminder

Just in case you needed it today:

“The sun is still shining,
the wind is still blowing,
and out in the wild
you are growing.
Days may go by
without change
you can feel,
but what’s happening here
is most certainly real:
You are becoming
what you were meant
to become
out in the wild
in the arms of the sun.”

– Morgan Harper Nichols

And as Anne Dillard reminds us:

“No one escapes the wilderness on the way to the promised land.” – Anne Dillard.

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Learn to Love Yourself

I came across this lovely reminder about self-love:

One thing your life will be is full.

Not just full of happy days.

Not just full of sad days.

But full of them both.

And then there will be many in between days too.

Learn to love yourself in each.

This is the best thing you can do for your life.

– s.c lourie

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A Quote by April Green

I came across this little quote by April Green:

that’s the beautiful 

thing about self love – 

you wear it like a dress

and it becomes more and more

exquisite 

with time.

When we afford the same love and care to ourselves that we afford to others, we begin to wear it. People can see it in our smile, in our mannerisms, in our nature. What we feel within, shines outside of us. Make sure you write yourself a love note today 🙂

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Keep Blooming

I have come to really appreciate the work of Morgan Harper Nichols:

Because no matter the amount of times you have felt lost

in a sea of a thousand things to do, in a range of roles and responsibilities

and the many ways that others see you, all along you have still been you.

You have been blooming everyday, and no amount of feeling 

unnoticed can pull you away from this truth. 

-Morgan Harper Nichols

There are times in life when we may feel unappreciated; perhaps in the busyness of our days we have put ourselves on the back burner. I believe that any work we have done on ourselves is never lost; the progress has still been achieved. It is perhaps a re-shifting of our needs that simply requires our attention to bring us back to our bloom 🙂

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A Quote by perry poetry

I came across this quote the other day:

Never fall for a heart that doesn’t beat as loudly as you do for it.  – perry poetry

I suppose we all, to some degree, have let this happen. It may have been in an intimate relationship, a friendship, or even a colleague at work. In any context, in order for a relationship to be healthy, reciprocity is an essential ingredient. Of course, there are times when we may carry the weight of the relationship, and we do so lovingly and with understanding. When we reach a point in the relationship; however, where we hesitantly admit that we are consistently doing more of the work, this is where the relationship has become unbalanced.

Perhaps we move towards trying to change it, perhaps we accept it, all the while turning our focus inward with some self-care, perhaps we make the tougher decision to leave it. In any case, creating some space to explore it, is an important piece to gaining a greater understanding of the symbiotic beating of hearts, and the healthiness that lies therein 🙂

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A Little Poem About Importance

Sometimes we forget that we can be important to others in subtle ways. I resonated with this little poem:

You might think that you don’t matter in this world, but because of you,

someone has a favourite mug to drink their tea out of that you bought them. 

Someone hears a song on the radio and it reminds them of you. 

Someone has read a book you recommended to them and gotten lost in its pages. Someone’s remembered 

a joke you told them and smiled to themselves on the bus. Never think you don’t have an impact.

Your fingerprints can’t be wiped away from the little marks of kindness that you’ve left behind.

Anonymous

The kindnesses we afford others are remembered along the way. Some days, we need to read this little poem as a nice reminder of our worth.

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A Reminder that We Can Heal

I came across this quote from Dodinsky:

Healing

A memory visited my heart.

It mumbled the same story

as the previous days.

I usually dismiss it with tears.

But today is different.

Today I released it with a smile.

– Dodinsky

We come to a point in our healing when something within us changes. It can come from an aha moment or it can arrive without fanfare. It is a moment in time when we realize we have healed from a past hurt, when we have given ourselves permission to feel only the wake of its peace.

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Grief and Gratitude

I loved this passage by Francis Weller:

“The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them. How much sorrow can I hold? That’s how much gratitude I can give. If I carry only grief, I’ll bend toward cynicism and despair. If I have only gratitude, I’ll become saccharine and won’t develop much compassion for other people’s suffering. Grief keeps the heart fluid and soft, which helps make compassion possible.”

– Francis Weller

There are many moments in my daily life of missing my parents. I am reminded of my mother in so much of what I do, I often think of what my dad would say; my day to day movements are infused with my love for them and my grief that they are no longer living. But I have also noticed that with those thoughts comes a grounded sense of gratitude and I am forever thankful to have received their love and influence. That is, I suppose, the act of carrying both grief and gratitude 🙂

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A Quote about Empathy

This is a quote I came across by Morgan Harper Nichols and it embodies for me the essence of my job as a therapist; touching as well on the deep respect I have for another person’s story.

Empathy: Let me hold the door for you. I may have never walked a mile in your shoes, but I can see that your soles are worn and your strength is torn under the weight of a story I have never lived before. So let me hold the door for you. After all you’ve walked through, it’s the least I can do. ~Morgan Harper Nichols

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The Effect of Another

I love this passage by writer, Victoria Erickson:

“There are certain people that’ll 

inhabit a small, quiet space inside

your heart despite any circumstance,

happening, or situation. They 

left a piece of themselves when

your souls collided upon impact.

And there they’ll always subtly remain.”

– Victoria Erickson

There are times in our lives where someone we loved is no longer present. Perhaps through their passing, or a relationship that was not meant to last a lifetime. Perhaps we have had to let someone go because they have hurt us in some way. Regardless, the effect of another, for the time that there was love, is still of value. Thank you for the lovely reminder, Victoria Erickson.

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