We are naturally drawn to forgive. It is a part of the emotional process that we possess that strives for us to live in peace. There are times, however, when it seems impossible to forgive as residual emotions stand in the way of truly feeling peace in our hearts. Yesterday’s post explored three essential understandings of the process of forgiveness; today we look at the difference between forgiveness and redemption.
We are also naturally drawn to wanting to be forgiven. Redemption is the act of working towards someone’s forgiveness and when both forgiveness and redemption are working to heal the relationship, our journey to being able to accept someone’s wrongdoing is greatly supported. There are times when a relationship can be repaired through this joint process and reconciliation becomes the goal. It may also be that even with the joint process, it changes the relationship, and knowing that is okay.
Sometimes, we are not afforded the gift of redemption. Through denial or avoidance, the person who has wronged us does not take responsibility for their actions and choices. Although this can slow down the process of being able to forgive, it does not need to impede it. For it is our goal to forgive, so as not to live with the weight of a stone in our heart.
Sometimes we need therapy to process our emotions in order to forgive; we can read books on forgiveness, repeat positive affirmations when feeling especially resentful, we can pray or journal, we can talk to others about how they found forgiveness. No matter our chosen way to achieve it, forgiveness is nothing short of an active process.
We are naturally driven to live with peace; forgiveness is possible.
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