The choices that we make in a relationship are either going to help feed the health of a relationship or the dysfunction of it. In our last post about healthy relationships, I would like to talk about behaviour.
In any couple union, we are two individuals within a dyad. Although it is important that individual interests are respected within the relationship, the behaviours you choose are better served through the eyes of the relationship. Some examples of behaviours that feed the dysfunction:
- not purposefully answering texts or phone calls (in an effort to avoid or ignore)
- not asking your spouse if a certain weekend is free, or what needs to happen with everyone’s schedule before making individual plans (this is not about asking permission – it is about being respectful of everyone’s time)
- making fun of your partner (in a way that is meant to embarrass or put down)
- any form of unfaithful behaviour
- expecting partner to carry more of the workload, finances (unless its agreed upon)
Examples of behaviours that feed the health of the relationship:
- listening to your partner’s ideas or opinions
- any form of affection or term of endearment
- encouraging each other in accomplishments and successes
- purposely doing small things for each other out of kindness
Whether you are contemplating a relationship, single and working towards one, or currently in a relationship, healthy relationships require trust, respect, open communication and investment. They can be built, but it is important for us to keep in mind, that in order for the foundation to be strong, we need both partners in on the work. 🙂
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