The Importance of Coming in Soft

I love this quote by Victoria Erickson:

“When you reach your edge, soften. Soften until you slip through the constraints and can create a new rhythm, a new route, a new release. Water is soft yet powerful. Reach your edge, and soften. – Victoria Erickson

Our rigidity and inflexibility have the ability to hold us back. We can experience this type of unyielding thinking at work, in our relationships, in our expectations of ourselves and others. I especially appreciate Erickson’s awareness of when it is important to soften – when we reach our edge. When we are feeling prickly about something, entitled, indignant; those are the times we need to remind ourselves to come in soft. I often say that something delivered calmly carries far more weight than something delivered in anger.

Coming in soft allows the other person to be heard, provides more flexibility to our thinking and matures us to an understanding that the world is far more grey than black and white. Water is soft yet powerful; what a lovely image we can use when we need to remind ourselves to come in soft.

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4 thoughts on “The Importance of Coming in Soft”

  1. Inspirational! And in keeping with the best advice, simplicity allows us to use it as a mantra, something we can grasp readily when approaching “our edge”. Thanks Kristine.


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