This meme came to my attention:
An unhealed person can find offense in pretty much anything someone does.
A healed person understands that the actions of others has absolutely nothing to do with them.
Each day you get to decide which one you will be. – Jay Shetty
To me, there is two levels of truth to these words. The first, is about security. When we feel secure in ourselves, we are able to recognize not only the role we play in interactions, situations and experiences, but also the role that others occupy in those same interactions. Healing brings about security; it allows us to be more flexible in our thinking and more open to being empathetic to those around us, forming a more objective view of the experience.
The second piece of truth in Jay Shetty’s words come from our ability to choose. When we are in the process of healing, of being self-aware, we also are more open to making choices that best reflect that process. That choice might be an apology we owe to someone if we realize that we’ve stepped out of line, or it may be choosing to take some space from someone who is causing grief in the relationship and unable to take responsibility for it.
In either case, we can recognize that the process of healing and the ability to make choices brings peace and a sense of feeling grounded.
Jay Shetty is a host, storyteller, viral content creator and experiment maker, who lived for three years as a monk. Here is his website: https://jayshetty.me/
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