Let’s Talk About Power

The word power can bring about a lot of different feelings. For some, it means success, for others it might suggest oppression. When it comes to power and how to use it for optimal emotional health, we can keep these things in mind:

• Manipulation is a bid for power. Whenever we walk away from an interchange or experience and can’t make sense of something, it is fair to assume that some type of game is being played. When someone uses manipulation in order to get what they desire, it is a way to control another person.
• Conflict driven folks desire power. When we suspect someone is driven to create conflict or chaos, the ultimate goal isn’t found in the details. Rather, the goal is global and is tied to the desire to feel more powerful than the other.
• Boundaries are a form of empowerment. When we set a boundary, we are saying “I am important too.” When we stick to the boundary, we empower ourselves.
• Empowerment is tied to our self-worth. When we feel that we are in charge of ourselves and consciously design our own lives, we reinforce our sense of self worth.

Power over others is a sign of insecurity whereas the ability to make choices and move to empowerment is a sign of security and health. Knowing the difference is the first step in creating positive change.

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