In a recent Oprah’s Supersoul Conversations podcast episode, she sits down with Dr. Phil to talk about his book, “Life Code: The New Rules for Winning in the Real World.” Ultimately, it was an episode about how there are some relationships in our lives that are simply not healthy for us. Between Oprah and Dr. Phil, we are hear some common-sense, yet important, advice – (paraphrased):
- We tend to give people the benefit of the doubt – after we become invested in the relationship, we are hesitant to give it up, even though we know we are being taken advantage of.
- We often love with the idea of who we wish that person to be – we fill in the gaps to make them wonderful in between.
- We often want someone to be better than they are, and we will work harder to try and create it. In the process, we often end up de-valuing ourselves.
- Someone’s unhealthy or toxic nature has nothing to do with you; it may feel like it does, but it is the way they function in relationship.
- “The only thing worse than being in a bad relationship for a year, is being in a bad relationship for a year and one day.” – Dr. Phil
- You don’t owe anyone access to your life if they are mistreating you – this includes family.
- We have to believe in ourselves; listen to our instincts and heed the red flags.
- “When people show you who they are believe them.” – Oprah
Listening to the episode is an affirming way to allow ourselves to let go of the illusion that an unhealthy relationship can, or will be any different. It allows us to set boundaries, take our space, or end a relationship that no longer values who we are.
To listen to the full podcast: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/own/oprahs-supersoul-conversations/e/65771027
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