Oprah Winfrey has a new podcast that brings some of her Oprah Winfrey Show episodes out of the vault. In an episode entitled, “Lifestyle Makeovers: How to Set Personal Boundaries,” she features guest star Cheryl Richardson who explains the importance of setting boundaries. She talks about language, and the phrases that we can begin to use as part of our vocabulary:
- “I have permission to change my mind.”
- “I need you to hear what I’m saying.”
- “I’m not going to make a decision right now, I’m going to sleep on it (or pray on it.)”
Richardson and Oprah talk about how to recognize the importance of not over-explaining ourselves. We often will try and justify or explain our position, when in fact, it is okay to simply have a statement (such as the ones above), that we can lean into and repeat if necessary.
Doing so calmly is also part of the process, as when we set internal boundaries, we are able to center ourselves. She suggests taking a deep breath, holding onto a small object that is grounding, or even saying “I need to pause for a moment and take a deep breath.”
By finding a couple of phrases we feel comfortable with, we can use language to set boundaries necessary for healthy relationships and a secure sense of self.
To listen to the podcast: https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/own/the-oprah-winfrey-show-the-podcast/e/68994336
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