Support Versus Save

I came across this lovely quote by Laura Jean Truman emphasizing how we can be there to support someone:

You can’t heal the people you love. You can’t make choices for them. You can’t rescue them.

You can promise that they won’t journey alone.

You can loan them your map.

But this trip is theirs.

Be gentle with yourself – it’s hard work to be present to the freedom of the other. 

Laura Jean Truman

When we try and save someone, it never works. I especially appreciate the line “you can promise that they won’t journey alone,” as it implies that you are with them as they struggle, but with the understanding that they need to do the work. This trip is theirs 🙂

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2 thoughts on “Support Versus Save”

  1. “To be present to the freedom of the other” encapsulates the experience I think, whether it’s family with addiction issues, dear friends living in difficult conditions, colleagues or acquaintances. Knowing what we can and cannot change/do might actually be a developmental task of adulthood. Now I’m off to look up more Laura Jean Truman!

    • Hi Gurlie, I totally agree! Learning that you can’t change someone is a fundamental realization. Thanks for the contribution!


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